What does empathic mean? Basically it means that you can identify with another persons feelings and emotions - actually feeling their pain or joy. You will have been born with this ability and it allows you to tune into or 'read' another persons energetic blueprint (their etheric bodies/aura and chakras) allowing you to experience what they are feeling on an intimate level. Unless you know that you are empathic, this will be done unconsciously and can sometimes be overwhelming for you, especially if you are in a place with a lot of other people. It is an amazing psychic gift to own, but if you do not know how to control it or it constantly overwhelms you, then you might perceive it as a curse. The biggest drawback to being empathic is that you are like a sponge - soaking up other people's emotions - which can impact on you quite heavily. After all we all have enough of our own baggage to carry around, without taking on everyone else’s.
Being empathic can also be extremely tiring, you may constantly feel like you are going through an emotional wringer, even when everything in your own life is going along smoothly. When you get bogged down with other peoples emotions and feelings you can start to feel like there is something wrong with you, that you are too sensitive - people may even describe you as overly sensitive.
Have a look at the list below and see if you can relate to any of the following:
♥ You may find that you become overwhelmed when out in public places. This is because you easily pick up on other people’s emotions and when you are surrounded by large numbers of people it is hard to shield your emotional body from what you are sensing around you. This can happen at shopping malls, cinemas, night clubs, football stadiums and even working environments when you work in a big corporation that employs a lot of people.
♥ Feeling others emotions may also happen when you are out with your friends or even just in the company of one person. If someone is experiencing a really bad time, or may even be feeling emotions such as anger or jealousy, an empath will pick this up immediately, and may have a tendency to take these emotions on themselves without knowing why.
♥ You may find it very difficult to watch or read about anything that involves cruelty or violence in any way. Any television programmes, movies or newspaper articles that involve human or animal suffering will become unbearable to view and will be avoided at all costs.
♥ Empathic people have the innate ability to know when someone is not being honest with them. This can be very upsetting when it is a close friend or a loved one as they can sense that the other person is saying one thing but thinking or feeling another thing and this can be very painful if they don’t know why that is.
♥ You will always find yourself supporting the underdog in any situation. You will have a tendency to be drawn to anyone who is suffering in any way, being bullied or suffering on an emotional level.
♥ You may find yourself constantly fatigued even when you are getting plenty of sleep. This is fatigue at an energetic level, rather than on a physical level and is caused by a constant drain on your emotional body.
♥ You will find that you constantly need to be in your own space, away from others. This is also very important for empathic or highly sensitive children and is a way of recharging your energetic batteries.
♥ You may find it very difficult to immerse yourself in things that you don’t really enjoy. Because empathic people sense and process everything through their feelings, if they don’t enjoy something it feels as if they are indeed living a lie or being false.
♥ You will have a need to constantly clear clutter from your life as you will have a natural understanding that it blocks energy flow around you. So you will always keep your environment clear and tidy otherwise you begin to feel heavy and weighed down by your possessions.
♥ You may find working within the constraints of other people’s routines and schedules hard to do. Empaths need to feel a sense of freedom and often benefit by working for themselves, so that they aren’t restricted by the rules and regulations of others.
♥ You may also have a strong intolerance to narcissism which means you find it very difficult to be around egotistical people who only think about themselves and never take the feelings of others into account.
♥ You may find that others can think of you as moody, shy, aloof or even disconnected from the world at times. This is because if you are soaking up too many negative feelings from other people you may have a tendency to withdraw into yourself – a form of self protection. It may also be very hard during these times to try to appear happy when you’re not because that just makes you feel worse and want to withdraw more.
♥ You will love being outdoors in nature and this is an incredibly good way to help yourself when you have taken on too much emotional baggage from others. You will also have a deep love of animals and having pets will be an essential need for you.
If you can identify with some or all of these feelings then you are an empathic person, and you may have been struggling with these feelings and thoughts for many years. Empaths have a deep spiritual connection and they can be of great assistance to others, but only when they have their empathy under control and are not being overwhelmed by it. This can be an amazing psychic gift to own and use, but it is important to first of all understand what empathy is and then become experienced in not allowing it to overwhelm you. It is possible to control whose emotions you feel and explore, and in doing this you will be able to improve your own experience of life too.
There are many other traits that show you are an empathic person so if you are an empath please share your experiences too ♥
This is the second article on empathy that I have written. The first one explains what an Empath is.
As an empathic person who has been heavily impacted by other people's energy throughout my life, it has taken me many years to discover the tools and techniques to use to prevent this happening. I have often noticed how other people that are sensitive, intuitive or easily impacted by others have experienced similar problems with their empathy. I have also noticed how some people don't realise they are empathic and therefore don't really understand why being around certain people can be difficult for them or make them feel bad. If you suffer from overactive empathy, hopefully this article will help you create stronger energetic boundaries to prevent this impacting you in the future.
Empathy is a gift, but it is difficult to see it this way when it is creating problems in your life. If you constantly find that you are stepping into other people's stuff in terms of taking on their experiences in an emotional, mental, physical or spiritual way without choosing too, then it can feel more like a curse. If you are lucky enough to possess the gift of empathy (yes you are lucky) , then it is helpful to know how to be able to turn it on when you require it and off when you don’t want it impacting you. Some people who are empathic can do this quite naturally, but for others it needs to be a conscious choice.
If you are an Empath who does not know how to ‘tune out’ when required, you are effectively a giant sponge - constantly soaking up energy from the environment you are in, people you come into contact with and even animals that you meet (although animals don’t affect everyone). You may find that certain people or places make you feel uncomfortable without there being a logical reason why you would feel that way. You may also feel tired and emotional after these occurrences. Your energy body (aura) is very porous and so you don’t only soak energy up, you also expel your own energy, sending it out to other people through the holes in your auric field.
However if you are an Empath who is in control of your energetic boundaries you can really begin to appreciate what a gift empathy can be. It will allow you to view things clearly from another person’s perspective helping you to really understand what they are going through. This gift allows you to feel compassion for people and this in turn helps you to connect to that person on a deeper level and you will often be motivated to offer your help and assistance to them. Empathic people (when they are in control of their empathy) are usually caring, giving individuals who do not get caught up in other people’s dramas and emotions, but can help and support them because they know how they feel.
So how do you create these strong energetic boundaries to stop other people’s energy from impacting on you? First of all you need to be sure that you are empathic – read my first article [here] to work out if this is you. And secondly if you are unable to naturally control your empathy, then you need to accept that you will have to make a conscious effort to stop it impacting on you until it becomes second nature to do so. That really means that you need to accept responsibility for your own empathy and to understand that it is not other people’s fault if their energy affects you. You are the only one responsible for what you allow in to your own energetic field.
So here are some psychic tools that you can use to control your overactive empathy and create those strong boundaries.
Keep yourself grounded and centred
The most important psychic tool you can possess to create strong energetic boundaries is grounding and centering. If something is impacting on you, it should be the first thing that you ask yourself “Am I grounded and centred?” Grounding connects you to the energies of the Earth to allow you to feel safe, secure and literally rooted into the ground. When you are grounded you feel solid, whole, clear minded and focused. If you ground yourself on a daily basis it will make a huge difference to how you are impacted by others.
Centering is a way of calling back your own energy and closing down any energetic holes or gaps that might be open in your auric field. It brings your own energy back into your body to allow you to feel ‘present’ and whole, effectively creating an inner state where you are totally connected to your own feelings. There are many techniques for grounding and centering yourself and you may already know a way to do this. Below is the technique that I like to use, so give it a try and see if it works for you too. However if you cannot relate to this method then it is important to find another way that works for you – it is the outcome that is important – to ground and centre yourself. If you have never run energy through your body before then it is important to know that these techniques use the power of intention using your psychic senses of visualisation, feeling or knowing as your energy field responds to your intentions and thoughts. Where intention goes, energy flows.
You will now feel grounded and centred and will have regained ownership of your own energy. You may find that this is all you need to do, particularly if overactive empathy is not a major problem in your life. However, if you find that you are heavily impacted regularly by other people’s energy then you will want to move on to the next step.
Set strong energetic boundaries
When you create an energetic boundary within your auric field, you are basically setting up a space where you feel safe and secure, that cannot be penetrated by anyone else’s energy. This space is where you maintain the vitality of you, expanding from the inside out, rather than from the outside in. In this way you are in control of your own energy and nothing can permeate this boundary unless you give it permission.
When you ground and centre yourself and then set up strong energetic boundaries, you will not be impacted by other people’s stuff unless you choose to be. Obviously there may be times when you wish to tune into what other people are feeling or experiencing, but it is nice to have the option to do this when it suits you.
If overactive empathy has impacted your life, have you found other ways to control it? Please share ♥
If you were to meet someone in your life (or perhaps you already know someone) who talks to you in a condescending manner, laughs at you when you try to do things, makes you think that other people don’t like you, or will think you are stupid, always tells you that you are too fat/too thin/too ugly/etc, is always angry with you and generally makes you feel like you will never be good enough - would you like this person? Most people would answer no to that question because this is the sort of person that would generally make them feel crap about themselves. Sadly the truth is that when you are suffering from low self worth this is the kind of self-abusive relationship that you have with yourself.
Many people that come to see me are suffering from low self worth and although they may not be quite this hard on themselves they have nonetheless, entered into this type of destructive relationship creating one or more of these feelings within. Once these feelings are created they have a tendency to keep playing in the background of their minds, like a stuck record, and then pop up to the surface when a challenging situation comes into their lives.
If you can relate to these feelings, and have a tendency to allow these thoughts to rule your life, then it is important to understand why you will tolerate this behaviour in yourself when you wouldn’t tolerate it in a partner, a friend or a family member. You may have learnt early on in life that it is not important to give love to your Self and that your own needs are not a priority, or that thinking about yourself is selfish and you should always put others first. In this way you probably send your care, love and acceptance out to others, neglecting yourself and creating a depletion of this energy within your own psyche. This can leave you with feelings of anger or resentment or you feel empty inside or feel a deep sadness in your heart.
Low self worth is not a diagnosed condition, but rather an inner sense that is borne out of your ability (or rather inability) to accept, love and care for your Self and how much you honour that. If you are in the habit of not giving yourself enough love, nurturing and acceptance (including your Shadow Aspects) of who you are, then it will be easy for you to enter into this type of relationship. The good news however, is that habits can be changed.
Low self worth is directly associated with your Heart Chakra – where you hold all your energy that relates to love, compassion and unconditional love for all things including your Self. So to begin to change this habit it is important to work with your Heart Chakra – to stop the depletion in this area by filling it with love for YOU.
♥ Begin by looking at which repetitive thought patterns about yourself you keep replaying in your head. What do you keep telling yourself that isn’t true? For example do you keep telling yourself that you are not a nice person because someone once told you this in an argument? You may not have been very nice on that particular day or to that particular person, or it might just have been their opinion in reaction to the argument. Whichever of these it is doesn’t matter, because if you accept that sometimes your Shadow Aspects surface and you can see them for what they are and then let them go, then there is no need to keep replaying them in your mind. You can stop the habit by replacing the negative thoughts with love and acceptance of your Self – filling your Heart Chakra.
♥ Ask yourself where you are giving all your energy away in your life without receiving anything back? This could be in one or more of your relationships either with a partner, friends or family. If you are neglecting your own needs in your relationships you are constantly depleting the energy in your Heart Chakra which will leave you feeling unfulfilled within that relationship. All healthy relationships need a balance of energy to allow both parties to feel and to give unconditional love to one another. If you find that you are constantly putting your own wants and needs aside for the other person in that relationship, then you need to work out why you are doing this. Remember that if you are depleting your own Heart Chakra in this way, you do not have the energy to love this person back in the way that they deserve.
♥ Look at where you are not being accepting of your Shadow Aspects. There is no such thing as perfection and everyone has aspects of themselves that they struggle to accept. What you perceive to be your shortcomings are often the areas that you learn the most about yourself as a person and you can use them as opportunities to grow. Allowing these aspects of yourself to surface and accepting them for what they are, energises your Heart Chakra and fills it with Self love. When you accept these parts of who you are, others will accept them too.
♥ Are you nurturing yourself in a physical sense? If you want to keep your Heart Chakra topped up with energy, allowing you to send your love out to others then it is important to look after your physical needs as well. If you do not allow yourself space to enjoy your favourite hobbies and activities it may be because you feel guilty about giving yourself time. You may constantly be putting work, family, household chores etc before your own needs. It is important to give yourself ‘guilt free’ time to enjoy whatever fills your Heart Chakra with a sense of peace. It is equally important to look at the way you nurture yourself in terms of food and clothing (essential needs). Do you feed and clothe yourself in the best way that you can, or do you go without to put others first? Do you eat food that is nourishing or is it fast food with no nutritional value?
These are just a few of the ways that you can begin to change the habit of entering into a relationship with low self worth and bring about a new sense of Self Love within your Heart Chakra. By taking care of your own needs first you are then able to give more to others without becoming depleted.
Have you suffered from low self esteem, and have you found other ways to overcome it? Please share ♥
Solar flares are a brief eruption of intense high energy radiation from the sun’s surface, associated with active regions around sunspots. They are powered by a sudden release of electromagnetic energy stored in the corona (the extended outer atmosphere of the sun) and these same energy releases also produce CME’s (coronal mass ejections).
Solar flares are classified as A, B, C, M or X which associates with their peak flux, M class and X class being the more powerful. Each class is ten times more powerful than the previous class and within each of these classes is a linear scale from 1 to 9 which shows the power of the flare. Except for X class flares which go on without limit. So an X2 flare is twice as powerful as an X1 flare. Recent X class flares that we have been experiencing have been in the X1 and X2 range.
So why do solar flares affect humans? Electromagnetic currents create the Earth and human body’s electromagnetic fields. These electromagnetic fields are currently going through a rapid shift in frequency and are being activated with more intensity because of the constant stellar activity occurring within the cosmos. We are becoming more sensitive to this solar activity and are feeling it on all levels, physical, emotional, mental, and energetic.
These electromagnetic changes allow us to anchor in higher frequencies of light, which in turn stimulates change within different dimensions of our bodies, releasing cellular distortion and triggering a need to release, confront or acknowledge things about ourselves. In other words our cellular memories awaken (our past experiences and traumas that we have experienced but have never processed), to be acknowledged and cleared. As the energy from solar flares is of a much higher frequency it pushes our lower emotional frequency upwards, which is why people notice a change in their emotions during periods of solar flare activity. Most people will experience this through heightened emotions, maybe feeling the need to cry, but not really knowing why, feeling grief over the loss of something or someone that may have happened a long time ago or even feeling sad without knowing what they are sad about.
As the electromagnetic body or field sustains the means to purify and release old weaknesses and diseases from the body and the planet it is also creating change within the Heart Chakra. As it energetically opens to a deeper level it allows the emotional body to evolve. This in turn awakens people to their soul’s purpose, pushing them to make changes in their lives, without really knowing why.
On a physical level it is common to feel anxious, nervous or tired, to suffer from body aches and pains or have a feeling of impending doom. Many people are discussing the fact that they are losing track of time. Either it is moving unnaturally slowly or more commonly, that it is speeding up and the days just seem to disappear. Nausea is also common and sleepless nights along with strange symptoms such as ringing in the ears, everything spinning when closing eyes and throat and thyroid issues are also coming up.
So how can you cope with solar flare activity? There are a few things that will help you when there is major solar flare activity around.
Drink plenty of water
Be gentle with yourself and rest when you need to
Be compassionate to others, as everyone is affected in some way at the same time as you are
Make sure you are grounded – either meditate or try walking in nature
Spend some time on your own in your own space becoming centred
Eat healthy foods that are as unprocessed as possible
Your Shadow Self is the part of your unconscious mind where you accumulate everything that you do not accept about yourself. All your own feelings of anger, jealousy, fear, repressed weaknesses and shortcomings etc are suppressed and pushed down, deep into the depths of your psyche where you think no-one will see them. Your Shadow Self holds everything that you perceive as not being acceptable to reveal to those closest to you, and the more you suppress or hide it, the blacker and denser it becomes.
You feel that in order to be accepted by others or to feel good about yourself, you must reject these shadow aspects that you hold. Unfortunately your Shadow Self is also a part of you that needs to be heard, and if you do not give it the attention it desires, it will reveal itself – often coming out of left field when you are least expecting it. When this happens you realise that no matter how far along the path of lifting your vibration you are, you still have to address your Shadow Aspects. There is no need to fear your Shadow Self. It is simply another part of you that needs attention in order for you to clear blockages in your psyche and allow you to lift your vibration. Whenever your Shadow Self appears, it brings with it an opportunity to learn and integrate its teachings for your personal expansion and growth.
Your Shadow Self will, more often than not, reveal itself when everything in your life seems to be running quite smoothly and then all of a sudden it will take a turn for the worse. Sometimes it is difficult to understand why this happens because you feel that you are doing everything right to create the life you want. But your Shadow resides in the unconscious part of your mind which does not accept these negative aspects of yourself. You have not been taught how to deal with negative feelings about yourself in a healthy way, so you hide them deep within yourself, disconnecting them from your conscious mind.
This can create an unwillingness to look inside yourself in an honest way, because you realise that at some point you are going to have to face your Shadow Self. Everyone holds a Shadow Self, and the only way to heal it is to bring it into your consciousness and to stop rejecting it. When you allow it to be heard and accept it as part of yourself, you create a wholeness within you that accelerates your healing.
The Ego Self and Shadow Self are very closely connected. The Ego Self wants to create feelings of separation within you and will also deny that you have a Shadow Self because it recognises that if you integrate your Shadow you will also ultimately integrate your Ego Self. It may be hard for you to recognise and connect to your Shadow Self if you are deeply influenced by your Ego mind. But to heal your Shadow Self you need to embrace the negative feelings that you have suppressed, and accept this side of yourself. In this acceptance of Self, the feelings are no longer kept in the shadows, but are bought out into the light to be healed.
Can you recognise your Shadow Self? Please share♥
Love & Light Fiona♥
So you have embarked on your Spiritual journey, maybe taken some courses or done a few workshops, or read some books. You have felt yourself changing and growing and you know that your vibration has lifted, and then all of a sudden out of the blue, you hit a wall. Everything seems to stop and you feel stuck or even as if you are going backwards – back to where you started……….. You may be experiencing a Void.
This can be an incredibly frustrating place to find yourself, particularly if you have been advancing on your journey quickly and have really noticed the changes within. It can also keep happening to you and if you don’t understand why, then it can really get you down whilst you are going through it. However, once you know what a Void is and why it happens, you begin to realise that it is a necessary part of your growth and you can even begin to embrace it!! Everyone experiences a Void at some stage in their spiritual development and the length of time it lasts can vary not only with each person, but also each time you go through it. Sometimes it lasts only for a few hours and other times it can last for days or even months.
A Void is a transitional state of change that is necessary for you to experience as you leave behind familiar thought patterns, behaviours, attitudes and habits and go deep within yourself to create new ones that match your changing vibrational reality. It is a state of consciousness that allows you to expand beyond your current limits allowing you to let go of anything that no longer serves you so that you can move on to your next level of growth. It feels a bit like down time that serves the purpose of allowing your physical, mental and emotional bodies to catch up with the changes that your spiritual body is going through.
Every time that you experience a Void your emotional body will go into overdrive and you will begin to ask yourself questions such as “Who am I? What am I doing with my life? How can I love myself more? Am I lovable? Am I on the right path?” The reason that this happens is because you are beginning to let go of an aspect of your personality that no longer fits in with the person you are becoming. And so you will have a tendency to go inwards and question things about yourself that previously held you in good stead. It can also feel like your foundations are falling away, leaving you nothing solid to hang on to and this can be a bit overwhelming. It is important then as you go through a Void to remember that you are beginning to surrender your personality to your Higher Self – to a deeper and more meaningful connection to your Higher Self and Inner Guidance.
So how do you know if you are going through a Void? If you are experiencing any or all of the following, then this is likely to be the case:
It is important to nurture yourself during these times especially if they last quite a while and impact on you quite heavily. After any process of spiritual growth it is always hard to begin experiencing doubt in yourself or question the path you are on, so what can you do to help make these times easier to handle?
Eventually you will reach the end of a Void and you will sense this as you begin to feel clearer, more connected to yourself, stronger inside and have a deeper understanding of and love for yourself. As this shift takes place you will find that you start to have a clear idea of where you want to go next. Your thoughts and ideas will now be aligned with your higher vibrational self and decisions will be easy to make as you see clearly where you are heading. You will begin to reconnect with those around you and will find the right people to help you move forward with your new vibrational reality. You will also feel a deep peace within yourself as you begin to see the positive outcome of the inner work you have been doing.
This is where you begin to see that a Void is not only a necessary part of your inner growth, but also a way for you to shift long held beliefs that no longer serve you, let go of emotional baggage that is holding you back and create a deeper love for who you are today. As you keep lifting your vibration you will experience a Void many times, but eventually you will come to acknowledge these transitional phases as a wonderful way to heal and grow.
There are many other things that you may experience during this transitional phase, and these are just a few of them. Please feel free to share your experience with others below.
If you would like to know more about lifting your vibration then please follow this link:http://www.fionaweatherhead.com/lifting-your-vibration-ecourse.html
Fiona is the creator of Soul Reawakening™, she teaches Intuitive Development and works from her healing practice in Avalon, on Sydneys Northern Beaches